English translation
142. Laqīṭ bin Ṣabraḥ said: "I was a representative for Banū Al-Muntafiq," or: "a member of the delegation of Banū Al-Muntafiq to the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ. When we arrived to (see) him, he was not
home, but 'Āishah, the Mother of the Believers, was. So she ordered some Khazirah,[1] to be prepared for us, which was then placed in front of us. And we were also given a Qinā'' and Qutaibah (one of the narrators) did not say "Qinā'' — and a Qinā is a plate of dates — "Then the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ came to us and said: 'Have you had anything (to eat),' or 'has anything been prepared for you?' We said: 'Yes, O Messenger of Allāh.' While we were sitting with him, a shepherd was driving the sheep[2] to their pen, and he had with him a kid that was bleating. The Prophet ﷺ asked him: 'What was given birth to (by the sheep), O so-and-so?' He replied: 'A female.' So he said: 'Then slaughter in its place one sheep.' He then said (to us): 'Don't presume that we are slaughtering it just for you; rather, we have a hundred sheep, and don't wish to increase (their number). Every time a sheep gives birth, we slaughter in its place another.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allāh! I have a wife in whose tongue there is something' — meaning that she speaks in a crude manner. He said: 'In that case, divorce her.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allāh! She has good companionship with me, and I have children from her.' He said: 'Then command her.' Meaning advise her.
'If she has any good in her, she will (listen to you) and do it. And do not hit your wife like one of you beats his slave girls.' I said: 'O Messenger of Allāh! Inform me about the Wudū'.' He said: 'Complete the Wudū', and pass your fingers through your fingers and toes, and exaggerate in your Istinshāq, except if you are fasting.'" (Sahih)
Arabic text
142 - حَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، فِي آخَرِينَ، قَالُوا: حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سُلَيْمٍ، عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ كَثِيرٍ، عَنْ عَاصِمِ بْنِ لَقِيطِ بْنِ صَبْرَةَ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ لَقِيطِ بْنِ صَبْرَةَ، قَالَ: كُنْتُ وَافِدَ بَنِي الْمُنْتَفِقِ - أَوْ فِي وَفْدِ بَنِي الْمُنْتَفِقِ - إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قَالَ: فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَلَمْ نُصَادِفْهُ فِي مَنْزِلِهِ، وَصَادَفْنَا عَائِشَةَ أُمَّ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ، قَالَ: فَأَمَرَتْ لَنَا بِخَزِيرَةٍ فَصُنِعَتْ لَنَا، قَالَ: وَأُتِينَا بِقِنَاعٍ - وَلَمْ يَقُلْ قُتَيْبَةُ: الْقِنَاعَ، وَالْقِنَاعُ: الطَّبَقُ فِيهِ تَمْرٌ - ثُمَّ جَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَ: «هَلْ أَصَبْتُمْ شَيْئًا؟ - أَوْ أُمِرَ لَكُمْ بِشَيْءٍ؟» قَالَ: قُلْنَا: نَعَمْ، يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، قَالَ: فَبَيْنَا نَحْنُ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ جُلُوسٌ، إِذْ دَفَعَ الرَّاعِي غَنَمَهُ إِلَى الْمُرَاحِ، وَمَعَهُ سَخْلَةٌ تَيْعَرُ، فَقَالَ: «مَا وَلَّدْتَ يَا فُلَانُ؟»، قَالَ: بَهْمَةً، قَالَ: «فَاذْبَحْ لَنَا مَكَانَهَا شَاةً»، ثُمَّ قَالَ: " لَا تَحْسِبَنَّ وَلَمْ يَقُلْ: لَا تَحْسَبَنَّ أَنَّا مِنْ أَجْلِكَ ذَبَحْنَاهَا، لَنَا غَنَمٌ مِائَةٌ لَا نُرِيدُ أَنْ تَزِيدَ، فَإِذَا وَلَّدَ الرَّاعِي بَهْمَةً، ذَبَحْنَا مَكَانَهَا شَاةً " قَالَ: قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، إِنَّ لِي امْرَأَةً وَإِنَّ فِي لِسَانِهَا شَيْئًا - يَعْنِي الْبَذَاءَ - قَالَ: «فَطَلِّقْهَا إِذًا»، قَالَ: قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لَهَا صُحْبَةً، وَلِي مِنْهَا وَلَدٌ، قَالَ: " فَمُرْهَا يَقُولُ: عِظْهَا فَإِنْ يَكُ فِيهَا خَيْرٌ فَسَتَفْعَلْ، وَلَا تَضْرِبْ ظَعِينَتَكَ كَضَرْبِكَ أُمَيَّتَكَ " فَقُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، أَخْبِرْنِي، عَنِ الْوُضُوءِ، قَالَ: «أَسْبِغِ الْوُضُوءَ، وَخَلِّلْ بَيْنَ الْأَصَابِعِ، وَبَالِغْ فِي الِاسْتِنْشَاقِ إِلَّا أَنْ تَكُونَ صَائِمًا».
