/18. A Person Looks At A Woman Whom He Desires To Marry
Darussalam · Volume 2
12. THE BOOK OF MARRIAGESunan Abi Dawud Darussalam English translation
الحديث: 2082 ¦ الجزء: 2 ¦ الصفحة: 228
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2082. Jābir bin 'Abdullāh narrated that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ said: "If any of you proposes for a woman, then if he is able to look at what will cause him to marry her, he should do so." Jābir added: "So I proposed for the hand of a young girl, and I would hide myself (to look at) her, until I saw of her what caused me to marry her, so I married her." (Hasan)
2082 - حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ زِيَادٍ، حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ حُصَيْنٍ، عَنْ وَاقِدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ يَعْنِي ابْنَ سَعْدِ بْنِ مُعَاذٍ ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِذَا خَطَبَ أَحَدُكُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ، فَإِنِ اسْتَطَاعَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَى مَا يَدْعُوهُ إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا فَلْيَفْعَلْ»، قَالَ: فَخَطَبْتُ جَارِيَةً فَكُنْتُ أَتَخَبَّأُ لَهَا حَتَّى رَأَيْتُ مِنْهَا مَا دَعَانِي إِلَى نِكَاحِهَا وَتَزَوُّجِهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا
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Looking at what is normally visible of the woman one wants to marry before marriage is preferable and commendable (Mustahabb). That is what Jābir, may Allāh be pleased with him, did, but free and unrestricted contacts or meetings are prohibited.