English translation
7154. Narrated Thābit Al-Bunānī: Anas bin Mālik said to a woman of his family, "Do you know such and such a woman?" She replied, "Yes." He said, "The Prophet ﷺ passed by her while she was weeping over a grave, and he said to her, 'Be afraid of Allāh and be patient.' The woman said (to the Prophet ﷺ), 'Go away from me, for you do
not know my calamity.' " Anas added, "The Prophet ﷺ left her and proceeded. A man passed by her and asked her, 'What has Allāh's Messenger ﷺ said to you?' She replied, 'I did not recognize him.' The man said, 'He was Allāh's Messenger.' " Anas added, "So that woman came to the gate of the Prophet ﷺ and she did not find any gatekeeper there, and she said, 'O Allāh's Messenger! By Allāh, I did not recognize you!' The Prophet ﷺ said, 'No doubt, patience is at the first stroke of a calamity.' "
Arabic text
7154 - حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ، أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ الصَّمَدِ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، حَدَّثَنَا ثَابِتٌ البُنَانِيُّ، قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَنَسَ بْنَ مَالِكٍ يَقُولُ لِامْرَأَةٍ مِنْ أَهْلِهِ: تَعْرِفِينَ فُلاَنَةَ؟ قَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: فَإِنَّ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَرَّ بِهَا وَهِيَ تَبْكِي عِنْدَ قَبْرٍ، فَقَالَ: «اتَّقِي اللَّهَ، وَاصْبِرِي»، فَقَالَتْ: إِلَيْكَ عَنِّي، فَإِنَّكَ خِلْوٌ مِنْ مُصِيبَتِي، قَالَ: فَجَاوَزَهَا وَمَضَى، فَمَرَّ بِهَا رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ: مَا قَالَ لَكِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ؟ قَالَتْ: مَا عَرَفْتُهُ؟ قَالَ: إِنَّهُ لَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قَالَ: فَجَاءَتْ إِلَى بَابِهِ فَلَمْ تَجِدْ عَلَيْهِ بَوَّابًا، فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ، وَاللَّهِ مَا عَرَفْتُكَ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: «إِنَّ الصَّبْرَ عِنْدَ أَوَّلِ صَدْمَةٍ»