Sunan Ibn Majah

Hadith 1866

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Looking At A Woman When Wanting To Marry Her

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Darussalam · Volume 3

9. The Chapters On Marriage

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الحديث: 1866 ¦ الجزء: 1 ¦ الصفحة: 600

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1866. It was narrated that Mughirah bin Shu'bah said: "I came to the Prophet ﷺ and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansâr and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet ﷺ had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allâh ﷺ has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allâh (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her." And he mentioned how well he got along with her. (Sahih)

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1866 - حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ قَالَ: أَنْبَأَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ، عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ، عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ، عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ، قَالَ: أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا، فَقَالَ: «اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا، فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا» ، فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا، وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ، قَالَ: فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ، وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا، فَقَالَتْ: إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ، فَانْظُرْ، وَإِلَّا فَأَنْشُدُكَ، كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ، قَالَ: فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا، فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا

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a. The boy should look only at that girl whom he is really interested in marrying. Using this excuse unfairly in order to keep looking at the daughters of people in vain is a very bad habit. Allāh ﷻ is aware of the thoughts of the heart; no one's treachery is hidden from Him. b. The noble Companions; men and women had great respect of the Prophetic Hadīth in their hearts. As the girl was informed about the statement of the Prophet ﷺ, she immediately agreed while she, before being informed, naturally disliked it.