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Proposal Of Marriage

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Darussalam · Volume 4

26. The Book Of Marriage

Sunan an-Nasai Darussalam English translation

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الحديث: 3237 ¦ الجزء: 6 ¦ الصفحة: 70

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3239. 'Āmir bin Shurahbīl Ash-Sha'bī narrated that he heard Fāṭimah bint Qais - who was one of the first Muhājir women - say: 'Abdur-Raḥmān bin 'Awf proposed marriage to me, along with others of the Companions of Muḥammad ﷺ. And the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ proposed that I marry his freed slave, Usāmah bin Zaid. I was told that the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ had said: 'Whoever loves me, let him love Usāmah.' When the Messenger of Allāh ﷺ spoke to me I said: 'My affairs are in your hands; marry me to whomever you wish.' He said: 'Go to Umm Sharīk.' Umm Sharīk was a rich Anṣārī woman who used to spend a great deal in the cause of Allāh, and she always had a lot of guests. I said: 'I will do that.' He said: 'Do not do that, for Umm Sharīk has a lot of guests, and I would not like your Khimār to fall off, or your shins to become uncovered, and the people see something of you that you do not want them to see. Rather go to your cousin (son of your paternal uncle) 'Abdullāh bin 'Amr bin Umm Maktūm, who is a man of Banu Fīhr.' So I went to him." This is an abridged form of it. (Sahīh)

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3237 - أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سَلَّامٍ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي عَبْدُ الصَّمَدِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَارِثِ، قَالَ: سَمِعْتُ أَبِي، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنَا حُسَيْنٌ الْمُعَلِّمُ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ بُرَيْدَةَ، قَالَ: حَدَّثَنِي عَامِرُ بْنُ شَرَاحِيلَ الشَّعْبِيُّ، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ، وَكَانَتْ مِنَ الْمُهَاجِرَاتِ الْأُوَلِ، قَالَتْ: خَطَبَنِي عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ عَوْفٍ، فِي نَفَرٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، وَخَطَبَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى مَوْلَاهُ أُسَامَةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ، وَقَدْ كُنْتُ حُدِّثْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: «مَنْ أَحَبَّنِي فَلْيُحِبَّ أُسَامَةَ» فَلَمَّا كَلَّمَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ، قُلْتُ: أَمْرِي بِيَدِكَ، فَانْكِحْنِي مَنْ شِئْتَ، فَقَالَ: «انْطَلِقِي إِلَى أُمِّ شَرِيكٍ» وَأُمُّ شَرِيكٍ امْرَأَةٌ غَنِيَّةٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ، عَظِيمَةُ النَّفَقَةِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ، يَنْزِلُ عَلَيْهَا الضِّيفَانُ، فَقُلْتُ: سَأَفْعَلُ، قَالَ: «لَا تَفْعَلِي، فَإِنَّ أُمَّ شَرِيكٍ كَثِيرَةُ الضِّيفَانِ، فَإِنِّي أَكْرَهُ أَنْ يَسْقُطَ عَنْكِ خِمَارُكِ، أَوْ يَنْكَشِفَ الثَّوْبُ عَنْ سَاقَيْكِ، فَيَرَى الْقَوْمُ مِنْكِ بَعْضَ مَا تَكْرَهِينَ، وَلَكِنِ انْتَقِلِي إِلَى ابْنِ عَمِّكِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ»، وَهُوَ رَجُلٌ مِنْ بَنِي فِهْرٍ، فَانْتَقَلْتُ إِلَيْهِ «مُخْتَصَرٌ»

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To propose a marriage is not something blameworthy, nor should one get annoyed at it. How could one achieve something without one's asking? However, the proposal ought to be made to the woman's guardian.